When You Were Born – You Were Afraid

We Are Born Afraid of 2 Things. Not 20. Not 5. Two. We are born with an innate fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. Everything else we fear is learned.  This is not new information. The research has been around decades. In self-defense or martial arts training, the focus is physical fighting,Continue reading “When You Were Born – You Were Afraid”

“Matter” – matters.

Design Matters in Self-Defense Instruction Every once in a while, a story hits the media about someone touting the differences between men and women as the source of abilities (or lack thereof) related to science, math or military service. Welcome to prooftexting, taking a quote or data point out of context adding validation to anContinue reading ““Matter” – matters.”

I wanna’ shake his hand –

I know I’m not supposed to say that. At least not out loud. Maybe whispering it from my hidden attic hide-away, or away from the laptop camera, or with a glance toward Baltimore’s proposed social distance police drones. But it’s a fact. Rolf Dobelli pretty much wrote the bible no one is reading. He publishedContinue reading “I wanna’ shake his hand –”

“you can’t take the sky from me”*

Liberty is a noun defined as: the state of being free within society from oppressive restrictions imposed by authority on one’s way of life, behavior, or political views. Freedom is a noun defined as: the power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint. The two words are usedContinue reading ““you can’t take the sky from me”*”

what you do with what you have

Forced Teaming. A phrase frequently accredited to Gavin DeBecker’s seminal work Gift of Fear describes a tactic employed when fast-tracking rapport is critical. Often attributed to predatory machinations it is also an effective tactic in de-escalation. Forced Teaming presumes tribal affiliation. You and I are the same. We share common ground. Highlighting our similarities crashesContinue reading “what you do with what you have”

The Seat of Power

There is a distinct difference in how humans have evolved our relationship with fear and our relationship with danger. As infants we are instinctively afraid of two things. Falling and Loud Noises. Both trigger startle reflexes and observable (instinctive) anxiety. But look at the definition of fear given by the Miller-Keane Encyclopedia and Dictionary ofContinue reading “The Seat of Power”

Scared Rabbit Syndrome: Update April 2020

I wrote the original piece about a year ago. It’s relevant now at a deeper level. Original first, update at the end. Not everyone is a Threat. In fact, most people just want to get through any given day with minimal drama. I’ll use flight travel as an example. When we are crammed together inContinue reading “Scared Rabbit Syndrome: Update April 2020”